Here is your chance not to repeat my mistakes. Although that is too much to expect. Well, you can just have a good laugh.
When I visited my friend who was one of the first in my group of friends to have children I really didn´t understand why she would lay down to breastfeed her little baby. We were in her living room and she just lay down on a sofa, she put her baby next to her and offered her daughter the breast. Everything was fine - except: I was judging her.
“Why wouldn´t she sit and hold the baby in her arms when she breastfeeds? That is the way to do that! I know it, I have seen it on TV. Does she want to look interesting? Well she has always been quite alternative. Does she just want to be special or what is going on?”
I haven´t asked her about it that day and left shaking my head. Little did I know how breastfeeding really looks like in reality. I had no idea, that the image of breastfeeding I had was approximately as true as the the image of sex or female orgasm you get from romantic comedies!
What is the point? Firstly - don´t judge the mother. She knows what she is doing. Period. Like always!
And then - breastfeeding is wonderful, natural, fantastic thing. But several generations before used formula a lot and most of the people nowadays don´t know how breastfeeding really looks like. They think they do. But they know bottle feeding with a breast instead of a bottle. And surprise surprise it often doesn´t work.
Which gets me to the rule nr. 1. Don´t judge the mother. If she breastfeeds then she managed to navigate in this extremely difficult field. So just applaud her!
If you are interested to know more about how breastfeeding really look like, watch this video (38 min and a lot of real info) and you are of course more than welcomed to join my programme Breastfeeding with confidence and support - online course and 6 months breastfeeding support. And you can of course book a visit, either online or I come home to you in Copenhagen, speaking both English and Danish.